Growing up I always heard the story of a conversation between a newly married couple. The new husband asked his wife, “Why do you cut the ends off of a ham when you cook it?” She said she didn’t know, it was just how her mother had always done it. So at the next family gathering, the new son-in-law asked his wife’s mother, “Why do you cut the ends off of the ham when you cook it?” The mother-in-law said she didn’t know, it was just how her mother had always done it. So the man finally asked the grandmother, “Why do you cut the ends off of the ham when you cook it?” and the grandmother gave the long-sought logical answer: “Because that is the only way it would fit into my pan.”
Sometimes our lives take shape in unexpected ways, and we end up just going along for the ride. Recently divorced, I was going through the motions of owning a business and managing a full-time job, the stress and the hard work and it suddenly struck me - “Why am I doing this? Because I want to? Or because I feel like I have no choice? What if my life were different? What if I took control back and shaped a new life for myself?” For the first time in years, I started thinking outside of the box of the life I had been swept into and began reimagining. What IF I didn’t have this burden? What would my life look like? How would it be different? Would it be better? I realized that there was nothing stopping me from reshaping my life into something that worked better for myself and my son.
When this idea first struck me, it was so revolutionary that I literally had to sit down. I had been so caught up in how things were, so used to doing what needed to be done without room to think about what I wanted, that I had forgotten that I had choices. That I had an actual say in my own life. I’m taking things slowly, but I feel like finally I am headed in a healthier, less stressful direction that will allow me to live a life on my own terms that will, thanks to RidgeCrest’s amazing support, be absolutely ideal for raising a child alone.
Is there anything in your life like that? Anything that, like a Magic Eye, if you looked hard at would suddenly shift and morph into something else? Why are you cutting the ends off the ham?